Tuesday, April 28, 2009

Role Reversal

This weekend I attended a pool party with a bunch of very attractive young girls (I call them girls because they are still in college). The boys were playing in the water and around the water. They were making a fire on the grill and burning up all the meat and breaking the cardinal rule: swimming on a full stomach!!! They were acting like BOYS. One of the young ladies made the comment "I wish we had as much fun as they do." We went on to commiserate about how if our hair got wet or because we hadn't done the necessary hair removal, or because we weren't PREPARED, we couldn't just jump in the pool like that. There was a tinge of jealousy in all the girls eyes as we moved our chairs further away from the pool as to not get splashed.
What's a girl to do??? Why do we have so many rules to follow when men appear to follow none? It seems so unfair that in this game there are two sets of rules. The Mars/Venus theory is consistent, but what's missing is the laws are so skewed. As women, we subject ourselves and each other to the most unrealistic unattainable impossible set of rules and regulations imaginable. The magazine racks, self-help section and talk show circuit is replete with ways to come close to our dating objective. Think about it, there are a million BRIDE magazines and WEDDING magazines, but how many Groom's Magazines? What does that tell you? Could it be that for men, the goal of matrimony, monogamy, and exclusive coupledom is not on their minds? They are loyal to their team (Go CHIEFS!!), a college (HUSKIES), a profession and a hobby like golf, but when it comes to the notion of settling down, they take a hands off approach.....The only law they half way abide by are a loose bunch of "Bro-Codes."
What if we just tossed all caution to the wind and dedicated ourselves to our favorite team; wore the jersey on game day, had tailgate parties, organized betting pools. How bout following our favorite rock band, or obsessing with golf, the most time consuming hobby of all. A man spends more time on a golf course that we could ever spend in a mall. The golf course is a big wide open mind clearing space where grown ups chase a little ball around for on average of 3 hours. Golf has rules. Football has rules. All these things men dedicate themselves to have rules, so they just have no additional rules in their personal lives.
I am suggesting that we let go of some of our rules and enjoy living and enjoy dating. Sometimes things are not fun because we have given too many rules to something that should be fun. So lets switch. NO MORE RULES!! GET A HOBBY (shopping doesn't count). Lets do what the boys do. They always look like they're having so much fun.

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