Hunger

I want somebody to love me for me Make me happy Where I wanna be-Heavy D The song says it all, but it bears repeating. There are people who are chameleons, they change like the weather to attract, keep and/or repel a partner. There are also people who would love to custom order a partner from a menu; easy on the eyes, specific height, weight and ethnicity with a small side of drama mixed with sensuality and spiced heavily with whit. My favorite aunt (Jenny) has always had the uncanny ability of identifying ingredients in anything we eat. Restaurant trips were filled with her telling me what was in a dish and what needed to be done or undone to make it "perfect." [and by perfect, she meant perfect for her]. Later in the week, we would be in her kitchen recreating the masterpiece, and she is quite a good cook. I always wondered what was so wrong with the dish the way it was??? It took me years to figure out that nothing was ever going to be good enough. Rarely, if ever, did I add salt, pepper but hot sauce? I love it!!. My philosophy has always been, if you don't like it, don't eat it. Order something else. There are plenty of items on the menu; HOWEVER, if you are starving when you get to the table, you might find yourself overlooking what you need for what you want. You might find yourself ordering any old thing just to satisfy your desire. I tend to gravitate towards cheesy, hearty, comfort foods when I am starving. I have had to teach myself how to curb my appetite until I can have the best possible meal, not just the hot cheesy comfort food staring me right in the face. I am not always good at that. The hot cheesy comfort food staring me in my face might be that relationship I don't need to [re]enter, but just cause it's convenient, it works. That's what I like to call Mr. Right-Now. Not to be confused with Mr. Right, but a close second. If Mr. Right still needs hot-sauce, salt and pepper to make him tasty, is he Mr. Right? Or just Mr. Needs a little spice?? This is also why it is ill-advised to go grocery shopping when you are hungry. You are more likely to get items that are NOT on your list. Items that are costly and in the long run,not as useful. It takes a disciplined consumer to stick to the list and avoid the free samples, the glossy boxes and the enticing quick foods in lieu of what you originally went to get. Can I stick to the list??? Can you?

Best Actress

Two weeks ago we were moved to tears by both Sandra Bullock and Mo'Nique's acceptance speeches at the Academy Awards. Each women took time to publicly recognize her spouse. Prior to the awards show being aired, both of these ladies were on the Barbara Walters Special. It was to be Ms. Walters' final Pre-Oscar show, and the comments made by Mo'Nique made about her "open marriage" caused quite a stir. She said that her husband could sleep with someone else and it would not be a deal breaker, because she knew who she laid down next to every night unlike many women in Hollywood. She was highly criticized and people (including myself) questioned her self esteem about doing ANYTHING to keep a man, even allowing him to roam periodically.

Sandra Bullock's acceptance speech moved all viewers to tears. Especially when she thanked her husband. In her interview with Barbara Walters, she discussed how safe he made her feel and how she didn't feel so BIG around him. Even their after-Oscar Hamburger joint date was publicized...........and then.......the other shoe fell.

Which of these women is the BEST ACTRESS, the one who acts like she doesn't care if her man steps out? Or the one who acts like all is perfect in her marriage until something bad happens?

Where is Waldo?

I'm sure you remember the series of books where in a crowd of people, you would have to locate the ever obscure oddly dressed Waldo. What made this task so daunting was that the apparent millions of other people in the picture were all doing the weirdest things and Waldo would just be standing there right in front of your face. Sometimes we think we have to look all over the place when what we are really looking for is right in front of us.

As a rule, I have preferred out of towners, partially because I consider myself an out of towner, and because I like boundaries. However, there is something to be said about locals. Whether it implies a groundedness or just that you have a clearer picture of someone you can see more often in their natural habitat. There is a secure feeling that comes from knowing someone near. Knowing that a person can be there at a moment's notice.

Perhaps my search has been tainted because I have looked all over for WALDO and he has been right in front of my face the whole time. No baggage, No negative history, No Major Issues, just that corny red and white striped sweater. One of the things that makes Waldo so hard to find is that many of the people in the village are dressed just like him. You have to get up close to see if he has on the glasses and the pants and the boots. He has to be WALDO.