People are People
so why should it be
you and I should get along
so awfully?
Depeche Mode
The only thing you can expect in this life, is change. I know M.R. didn't coin that phrase, but it's right on the money. Anything (and anybody) you allow yourself to become attached to will leave you. One way or another, it is crucial to know that people cross our paths for A REASON, A SEASON OR A LIFETIME. Over the months I have been in the midst of a soul search marathon. I have made new friends, I have lost touch with others, yet I feel most responsible for the ones I've lost. You know the old saying she who has a million friends, doesn't have one to spare . That thing really worked me over (and The Sex & The City Movie) Had your girl reaching out to folk I hadn't thought about in a long time. My reach out was sincere, and I was really feeling like I had been the ultimate bitch by disassociating myself from certain people. That is of course, until I snapped out of it and realized that some people and some relationships run their course like a good buzz. When things are over, it's important to remember that Life goes on and people grow, out of things they fit before.
When a romance ends it's called a breakup, but when it comes to friendships and non-romantic relationships, no one discusses endings. There isn't even a term for it.
There are so many reasons the show Friends was an inaccurate reflection of friendship. Rachel, Ross, Joey, Phoebe and all the TV "Friends" were always friends. We don't know how long they knew each other. We never see them have a real live fall out. They rarely disagreed on the show, in fact I never saw them go to work or have other "friends". They just were. I bet The season would never had ended, if NBC hadn't run out of money. All the friendship oriented shows, of which there have been and will continually be many, rarely if ever focused on the 5th grade moment many of us still have as adults when someone says to you ( or you to them) "I don't want to be your friend no more." Come to think of it, even in the 5th grade, some well meaning adult would force a reconciliation.
As a huge Public Enemy fan, I remember a Chuck D quote that went: I couldn't CHANGE the people around me, so I changed the PEOPLE around me! Let me just say it was the best thing I could have done. It has enlarged my circle in a good way and on a funny Karma Twist, I have had the privilege of reconnecting with a long lost friend from back in the day and getting to know other local friends better. I have even come to learn more about the one thing that motivates me in ALL RELATIONSHIPS. I have an overwhelming need to be understood. This is above all the other things in a relationship that people value, you know like respect, admiration, honesty, attraction and all that good stuff. My LIFETIME friends know I need to be understood and I'm not talking about the Cable Channel. I am not as complicated as I make myself out to be. Somehow I can come off as a superhero to some people. It is only those who realize I am mortal, that I can really vibe with. This epiphany is the newest on my trip to self discovery. It makes me happy to know what tiny stone had found its way into the shoe of my thoughts so that I could finally dislodge it and move on. Forward!!
Friends is a word we use EVERYDAY
but most times we use it IN THE WRONG WAY
now you can look the word up AGAIN AND AGAIN
but the dictionary doesn't know the meaning of FRIENDS
Whodini!!!
3 comments:
Really interesting, it definitely makes you think. Kind of like your saying "when people show you who they are.....believe them" You cant change people, so if your not willing to deal with whatever you don't like about them, change the circle of people around you, don't attempt to change the person, because you will ultimately fail.
life's jpurney takes us a long way and often brings us back to where we started. We want to grow strong and go away and be away but something pulls us back to the core where it all started. Relationships enrich our lives and adds to our personal tapestry of our souls. But home always calls you, home is where our values are, our life lives and is the summation of all the things we want to be, never be and wish were not. Many times in my life I lived in a shell defining the world through the eyes of others, seeking affirmation in the mirror that they presented to me, to be the image and the reflection that they saw and not the one I felt. One day, and it will happen to you as well as all of us, we will hold the mirror and see who we are and love that person for seeing the face, the soul in the mirror. Our reflection will be bright and we will hold that mirror, no one will tell us what is there, or what should be there, we will finaaly see ourselves, and we will smile and know that we were always there just waiting to take our mirror and look within ourselves. Take your journey and remember your mirror, your soul and that everything you experience you will see and rejoice that you are taking back your view of yourself and the world. continue on the journey..lov your aunt jenny
Being understood...wow. I have somewhat recently made a decision to handle that one myself. My companion and I agreed that even above understanding each other we would somehow always allow each other to grow. Like I said, this is a fairly recent handle on the situation, about five or six years calibrating, and we are still knocking at its door. I love disect this topic among others, though I will rest the comment here...thank you...b
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